So chances are I am not the only person in the world who is trying to figure this whole “life” thing out.
We spend the first 18 years of our lives becoming masterminds at taking standarized tests just to come out on the other end with little to no useful skills, and it taking 30 minutes to decide which nail color we can live with for the next two weeks. (Yes, the implication here is that your nail color is a small decision)
So the question is, how do we know what our career path is supposed to be? And more importantly, how do we get there?
Fear not muggles, for I come baring solutions.
First of all, this is your life, similar to starting a diet, you can go ahead and throw the “quick fix” guide out the window. Now listen up because here is what you need to do.
Step numero uno:
Enroll in college.
There is a core curriculum that most degrees require. So you don’t need to know right away. English, history, math, government. Start there.
I am a big advocate of the JUCO, and I’ll tell you why: A. It’s cheaper. But not used Michael Kors purse with a stain on the side cheaper. You get just as good of an education that you would at a four year university. Dont be boushy. 2. There are smaller class sizes, so it will be easier to make a connection with your professor. And C. Whether you are paying for college or your parents are cutting the bill; no matter your living situation: moms house, your own apartment, under a bridge, it is WAY cheaper than a dorm room.
We are an evolving world, and every second it is becoming more pertinent that you have that piece of paper. Trust me, it will be your best accessory.
Step numero dos:
Figure out what kind of life you want.
They say “money cannot buy happiness” and maybe thats true, but a healthy cushion never broke anyone down, but it can definitely help break the landing.
Some questions you might want to ask yourself would be:
Do I want a family? Where do I want to live? Do I want to experience other cultures?
Money cannot buy happiness. But happiness is an emotion that comes and goes, and I am not a millionare or anything, but she rears her head a lot less when my bank account is in the neg.
Step numero tres:
They say if you do what you love then you never work a day of your life.
Real talk though, every great singer will not sing for a living. Thats a general statement. Not everyone can be famous, and not every particular skill is going to come with a salary that can sustain a life.
So what else? Here are some more questions to ask yourself:
Do you like dealing directly with people? Do you like the prospect of helping people? Do you like organization and numbers?
There are going to be sub-categories that go along with these questions, as there are obviously different ways you can do each of those things.
You want to do something you love, but maybe you don’t know everything you love yet.
Do your research.
Bls.gov has an occupational outlook guide. It tells you everything you need to know about the salary, job growth, job duties, of just about every job possible.
Go through trial and error processes, look at things from every possible angle. My boyfriend stressed me out when he was trying to figure out what he wanted to do. Everyday it was something different, and it made me want to strangle him. But it is his life. He is going to have to wake up everyday and find tranquility in his decision. And it is a big one, so take it seriously.
Lastly, and possibly the most important step:
Do not make any life decisions for anyone other than yourself. Don’t misunderstand, typically we have people who walk through this life with us, and you can have regard for how it will affect them. Just remember that sometimes we have to put ourselves first. We have to follow our dreams because we are better for everyone we love when our passion and drive are what lights our path.